University of Nebraska Kearney - Blue and Gold Yearbook (Kearney, NE)

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attention to you. Interprets most things in sexual terms, for instance if you invite a man in for coffee; he thinks you want to have sex. Says there is no such thing as rape. Displays a lot of anger against wom- en. Puts you on a pedestal. Unreason- able expectations might enrage. Accepts interpersonal violence as a way of dealing with feelings and conflict. Tends to perceive relationships be- tween men and women as adversarial. Statements such as, Women are de- ceptive. manipulative bitches and they need to be put in their places, exemplify such an attitude. Another point suggested by Blake is that peer pressure often leads to date rape. Sometimes guys living together braq about makinq it with so many qirls, she noted. Characteristics of Victims Authorities on the subject of date rape stress that the incident is not the victim’s fault. Yet there are certain personality traits that render a woman vulnerable. They include: Passive personalities People pleasers Poor communicators Blake added that often women are responsible for putting themselves in situations where rape could occur. Many authorities stress a woman has a right to dress as she pleases, have sex with someone and then change her mind at any time and be treated with re- spect at all times. Yet Rol advises KSC women not to wear frilly blouses or V-neck tops ’ Do you cry rape? Facing the fact that we are vulnera- ble to rape, especially a rape by some- one we know is not very comfortable, but it is realistic. The victim of such an incident must face yet another reality and decide on her course of action. Victims are advised by law enforce- ment officers not to touch anything at the scene or take substances such as aspirin or alcohol to try to calm down. Campus security officer Wilma Lewis said, The last thing to do is change clothes, cleanup, take a shower and forget about it. She advises contacting a friend for emotional support and then contacting the police. There are good reasons to report that a crime has been committed against your person. The police can't do their job unless the crime is reported. Rapists are often repeat offenders. Reporting him now may prevent it from happening again. Others may be victim- ized or he may come back to you for more. Kearney police officer Dan Lynch said, No matter how many times you said. ‘No’ by not reporting it you tell him that his conduct was acceptable. But there is a downside to calling in the police. The police themselves admit that the dating situation often muddies the issue and that date rape can be very tough to prove. The victim will have to undergo a medical examination at the hospital to determine her condition and gather evi- dence; the victim gets the bill. That bill can easily be in the neighborhood of $125. The fees for the medical examina- tion are reimbursable through Victim Witness — if there is a conviction. The victim is interviewed by the po- lice more than once. Lynch said that the victim’s mental state is often such that it is impossible to get all the necessary information dur- ing the initial interview. This means that the victim must repeat details of an un- pleasant episode, perhaps several times. If the case does finally go to court the victim usually must testify, repeating the story again only this time in a public courtroom. Lewis said, It takes a determined person to continually go to court and testify. Plus they’ve got the peer group pressure. Public exposure of the incident weighs heavily in the decision not to seek help from the police. Lynch said, The biggest problem we run into is they don’t want their par- ents to find out. Whatever decision she makes about contacting the police it is impor- tant for the woman to take care of her- self. Lewis said, Whether or not you re- port it to us. seek counseling right away. Sarah's is a story that many may find familiar and some may find threatening. It may have hap- pened to you or it may just be in the back of your mind. Hers is the story of date rape — it does exist. I had a crush on this guy, and I was introduced to him by an instruc- tor. After we met, I saw him at parties and on campus. One night after a par- ty, I asked him over. We were both ar- tists and he wanted to see my work. I thought he was an excellent artist and I valued his opinions and criti- cisms. I was also very flattered that he cared about my work. I kept my art work in my bedroom. While we were going over my work, he started making advances toward me. When I said no, it didn’t do any good. He started to get angry and verbally abuse me until I felt like I was nothing. Then he completely disrobed and pinned me to my bed. He started pul- ling off my shirt and jeans. This was like a tug-of-war. I tried saying no and explaining to him that I hardly knew him and I didn’t want to have sex. After trying that and being unsuccessful, I got really upset and started crying. He got mad and left me alone. Some damage was already done even though he did not have in- tercourse with me. It was still an inva- sion of my privacy. After it was all over, I felt ashamed that I had let something like that hap- pen to me. I was embarrassed be- cause I wondered if he would tell his friends about me. Even though he was a jerk. I still, for some strange reason, cared what he thought of me. I don't know why I cared because he made me feel dirty and cheap. I did not get legal advice or press charges but I did talk to a priest and a counselor about the attempted rape. Today, it is still hard for me to date be- cause this is always in the back of my mind. I do know I will never let it hap- pen again and I will never put myself in that situation again. 11

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s PECIAL TOPICS You had a date tonight with “Mr Wonderful ' Dinner tasted fantastic. You laughed through the comedy. You then went to a party. At 3:15 a.m. you wanted to go home. But your date forced you to stay and have sex with him. You were date raped. Date rape is “forced intercourse by someone the victim knows,1' according to Connie Rol, KSC counselor. Date rape happens in the context of a rela- tionship that began as something volun- tary and consensual — unlike rape by a stranger. According to a recent survey con- ducted at a large Midwestern college 100 percent of those male students who said they had forced sex on a woman, said that they knew the victim. At KSC, an estimated 20 percent of women have had this experience, said Janet Blake, counselor. She added, however, that none of these incidents have resulted in a rape report to law en- forcement authorities. According to a recent newspaper article on the subject, many people be- lieve that “true rape is committed only by weapon-wielding strangers and that a date rape is somehow the victim’s fault. Typically victims are extremely em- barrassed. They often feel guilty, angry and ashamed. Rol said, “Their judg- ment, integrity and trust have been vio- lated.” Other common reactions of the vic- tim are fear of retaliation, shock, disbe- lief, self-blame, shame, depression, self- doubt, confusion, damaged self-es- teem, isolation, bitterness and distrust of others. Often victims have a post-rape need to deny the rape and its impact and they attempt to minimize their trauma and painful feelings in order to cope. Blake said experiencing these emo- tions creates a cycle of not feeling good about yourself. These feelings might not be that vivid if the victim didn't know her rapist. Rol concurred that date rape can be more severe emotionally than stranger rape because victims might feel more re- sponsible for the indident. Prevention “Anyone can be raped,” said Blake, so everyone needs to protect herself.” Experts suggest revamping rape- prevention plans on college campuses to educate students about the threat of sexual aggression and to encourage open discussion about sexual topics. Rol, campus counselor, said wom- en should decide what they want sexual- ly and communicate these expectations. She also suggested that women should trust their instincts. “If you don’t feel right about a situation, then just get out,” she said. “Be in control and be able to make a judgment call,” she added. “You can study at the library instead of his apart- ment. To get home safely, Rol advised creating transportation options such as driving your own car, walking or calling a friend for a ride. Campus Security Officer Wilma Lewis suggested drinking alcoholic bev- erages only to the point where you’re still in control. Blake agrees. “Stay away from fra- ternity parties with lots of alcoholic drinks. Don’t get to intoxicated because drinking increases you vulnerability.” Pauline Bart, a sociologist at Chica- go’s University of Illinois Medical School analyzed 94 date rape cases and found these strategies successful particularly when used in combination: Fleeing or trying to flee. Fighting back. Yelling from the diaphram and not screaming or shrieking from the throat because that only reinforces the hysteri- cal female concept. Fighting back, according to Bart, can be especially effective because it shows the man you are not playing the game of “my ‘no’ means ’yes ” Characterists of Rapists “Rape is the male’s problem,” said Rol. “No one has the right to force action on someone else. But how can you tell the good guys from the bad guys? Campus Security's Lewis said to avoid men who become domineering. Demanding to pay for everything on the date could indicate an expectation of sex later. And there are other warning sig- nals. Be careful if your date: Treats you as if you’re his property and gets angry when another man pays

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OOD PFM spices daily fare with Lance Buoy and Evelyn Lijoodi at the grill. PFM employs 50 to 55 student helpers. The Professional Food Service Management has served KSC since June of 1984. Before PFM another service, ARA Catering Service took care of the students of KSC. One aspect the two services have in common is Dick Williams. Williams has been em- ployed by both services here at KSC. Af- ter PFM took over service for KSC, Wil- liams was offered the position of direc- tor of food service, which is his title at present. Williams first started working in the cafeteria business part-time while still a student at KSC. He then worked his way up to student manager’s position but de- cided to teach school for a while before rejoining the catering profession. PFM is run strictly on the money from students’ meal plans. The service is a free enterprise system, therefore some money does go to the college for building debt retirement and staffing. No government funds are received as far as budget expenses are concerned. “The college, more or less, works as a holding company because the stu- dent pays the college and then the col- lege pays PFM,” Williams said. Special features found in PFM’s service include a monthly birthday night on which birthday cakes are given away; “Foods of the World”, different national- ities of the world decorations and food; “picnics” in residence halls where food can be sent over for meetings, etc.; sick trays, and sack lunches with four hours notice; dietary counseling; and, of course, the “Antler” snack bar. “We always try to to something dif- ferent in the dining room for the general population, just to make it different; just so that you aren’t coming to the same old place day after day,” Williams said. In regard to service at the Com- mons, PFM may feed as many as 1,500 people in a single day. Each meal has its own peak time. This time depends on class schedules and what day of the week it is. One such peak comes every by Angie Steffen Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 1:15 p.m. “Lunch is the largest meal, said Williams, “because we have more com- muting students who eat only lunch with us.” Student meal plans have risen by 40-50 purchased plans this year com- pared to last fall. PFM also keeps statis- tical data on how many people eat what, what time they eat it, and in how many seconds its production takes. Every 15 minutes a customer count is taken; all entrees are kept track of, and how many are served in a certain amount of seconds. Burritos, lasagna, tacos, pizza, hamburgers, steaks, and spaghetti are popular foods among stu- dents with meal plans. Williams also said, “When pop was first introduced into the college meal plan ... people thought that milk con- sumption would go down, but it really doesn’t. People at this age, your typical traditional college student, if they are go- ing to drink milk, they will drink milk. They generally have their milk and their pop too.” Menus for PFM are set up on a three week cycle. Changes are made but this basic system is continued throughout the year. This system includes 110 en- trees of various types. The advantage of this three week cycle over a five week cycle is explained by Williams, “If you really look at and an- alyze a five week cycle many foods are similar or repeated anyway.” Changes made in the program this 12