Pickering College - Voyageur Yearbook (Newmarket, Ontario Canada)

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'Is' . 3532.3 IN MEMGRIAM , I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I . I I I

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their ideas and opinions. their philosophical attitudes and their personal characteristics on a more private level. lt is in this second more private sector of interpersonal action that the greatest good and sometimes the greatest harm can be done, Teachers enioy a special position with respect to their students. They are considered to be a blend of physician. clergyman. advocate. parent. favourite uncle, and friend. Very often teachers are party to conlidences that must be contained. At other times the weight of a shared confidence would be to guide the young person toward an apparently self-directed conclusion. Teachers tread a very fine line between the imposition of their mature judgement. and helping a young person liberate the Teacher within . Helpfulness, truthfulness, and genuine support are positive attributes to personal friendships. Power control, rumouring and iniustice are some of the dangers. People do not like to talk about people. People learn some things from books, but a great deal more is learned by watching. evaluating. and analyzing why. what and how people think and behave as they do. Personal testing of one's values. attitudes and judgement may in part be the result of a confidential discussion with a friend. either peer or someone older and more experienced. Some simple questions may lead to increased understanding and a confirmation of old values with new insights, These questions include: Who is saying what to whom and under what conditions? What is really taking place? ill ill l3l What are the consequences to the attitudes and actions expressed? f-ll How do the attitudes and actions affect the participants themselves as well as others? l5l What are the implications of the attitudes and actions to the wider community? l6l May the attitudes and actions stand up to the lest of The Golden Rule ? There are other similar questions which may be asked in order to test the cause and affect nature of any human relationship. People cement their friendships. discover their priority factors, learn their limitations. develop their value systems, evolve their sense of selffconfidence by asking questions and participating in personal discussions with their friends. A new student in September. can hardly anticipate the Hidden Agenda of learning that exists for him. He might only have an inkling ofa suspicion ol the adolescent sub-culture that exists within any group of students. Questions about drugs. drinking. sex. power. religion. politics. social acceptance. success and failure are part of the sub-text that is being studied while in the classes the Three R's are covered , l98-i-85. was one year of profound testings for all of us at Pickering College. Our friendships were tested and found solid and secure. Our attitudes and our actions were challenged to meet fresh demands on our emotional reserves of energy. The questions we were able to ask ourselves in the final analysis to test the Truth of our attitudes and our actions were good ones and have allowed us to move into the future with greater self- confidence secure in the experiential knowledge that the legacy that has been passed on to us from those who have gone before may be conveyed wholely to another generation of new boys, The first walk up the front steps and through the four pillars may be a bit awesome, The formal walk up the steps and through the pillars by the graduating class is a powerful and wonderful silent emotional experience of friends remembering all of the learning that has taken place at Pickering College. Sheldon H, Clark

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D0 How privileged we were to know him. He brought colour. surprise. elation. happiness, laughter and ioy to each of us. He brightened our days and sparkled our nights. I clearly remember when he arrived at Mazinaw last summer. As the days passed and we came to know him better we were impressed by his constant willingness to help others - and his ability to make our camp such a happy place. We remember . . . we remember his smile - his unforgettable laugh - his guitar and his songs - his preppy clothes which never seemed to get dirty - his enthusiasm - and especially his love for everyone of us which, when he came into our presence, was like the sunshine when it comes out from behind the clouds after a rain. Don loved life completely and he lived it intensely and he shared it universally with everyone. From Don we learned, by his example, how we could come to appreciate our friends and family more. How he loved his family. How he loved his friends and how they loved him and how each was proud of the other. How lucky we were. At Pickering Don was a leader. A Leader in sports where his enthusiasm could lift the spirits when they were down and make all games more fun. A Leader in college life where his sense of fun, his high standards of personal behavior. of organization and of support for the school were positive examples of his fellow students. There are many of them here today and they will remember. And how well we will remember his love for the plays and musicals especially West Side Story last fall. I am sure many of us here today will think of Don every time we hear those great songs and. when we do I hope. we will remember how he made those moments such a happy memory for us all: forever. Don always was willing to go the second mile to help others at school. This year at Pickering he was given the Widdrington Award in recognition of his special contributions to his school and his fellow students. Now he is gone. And all we have left are the wonderful memories. Certainly many of us feel bitter and we feel we have been cheated too. It does not seem fair. Some of us may even question our faith - but. with time, I think we will remember that each of us has a very small place in this vast universe of ours and that there are powers and forces at work which we do not understand. So we have Faith. But, I believe if we can think of Don's life as a gift - a gift we were very fortunate to share for a brief time and is now gone - the burden may be easier. His gift to us was to remind us life is a great adventure- it is a time for fun and a time for friendship. as well as. a time for work. By his example he taught us how we could love our families and our friends more richly and how even one of us, in a short time, can contribute something of value to this often worried world. From the eulogy by Brian Blackstock '56 Don Kellock '84, son of Burt Kellock '52 was killed in a motor accident in July. I 985.