Harper College - Halcyon Yearbook (Palatine, IL)

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All parties suffer greatly from the rigid sex-role conditioning they received as chil- dren and adolescents. Perhaps this is most evident in the sphere of human sexuality. So many encounters seem devoid of kindness, respect and honest intimacy. Too many times intercourse becomes exploitative, men chalking up yet another conquest, women deriving a tenuous sense of worth from their desirability, their ability to use men to achieve emotional land sometimes economic satisfaction. Enter the human liberation movement, a rethinking process, a fresh set of alter- natives to the traps set by rigid and differentiated conditioning. No longer need men and women conform to an exploita- tive system. The components of mascu- linity and feminity are under-going an intense examination-resulting in new, operative frameworks of humanhood. The process of redefining one's self- image is arduous, but the eventual rewards seem well worth the time and effort. Stepping outside a confining mystique needn't emasculate the male nor dehumanize the female. Rather, a fresh insight into one's potential can be relized Men and women can share traits formerly designated to one or the other sex. Growth is defined by the individual self, over- steeping the boundaries imposed by dif- ferentiated orientation. All this should devastatingly affect men's and women's relationships to each other. Meeting on equal terms they can interact on a basis of co-operation, rather than on psychically croppling levels of dominance and submission. Economic achievement and status attainment are no longer only a male birthright, homemaking and child-rearing no longer the exlusive domanin of the women- people can choose from a previously cloistered set of roles. One's life-choices can result from asking what is best for me , not what is an 'ordained' male or female role. New questions concerning marriage are asked. No longer defined as a sufficient goal in itself, it may evolve into a dynamic vehicle for self and dual actualization. Also, the structure may grow to include new forms, homosexual alliances, group marriages, communalism, non-legal arrange- ments, and lVlargaret lVlead's two step mar- riage, one with, one without children. The single state also bears reexamination, it needn't necessarily denote loneliness and barrenness. Sexuality, stripped of tension and inane game playing, such, aided by a sense of honesty and respect, grow to be fully satisfying and meaningful. Liberation renders the male hustle and the female tease anachronistic and useless. One's bed needn't be an arena for confrontative carnal knowledgee rather a place for an honest and relaxed sexual experience. The aim is mutual reciprocity, sharing, in dating, in marriage, in child-rearing. Discarding crippling and dishonest mysti- ques e men and women face an exhaustive process of rethinking, reevaluation of old, durable institutions and practices. But, the eventual reward is a new sense of human worth, non-exploitative, non-demeaning, devoid of artificial standards of superiority and inferiority. F11 l'ul

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children need to experience risk-taking, and in some instances, failure. By doing so, they could increase social and personal competence, provided their failures do not affect ithrough the ignorance of insensitive parents and teachersl their sense of worth. Also, the polarization between child and adult spheres appears to enhance the adult mystique as exciting and tempting. Rather than afforded protention, the adolescent is subtly seduced into awkward adult imitation f drunkenness, aggressive- ness, precocious, teasing sexuality -to demonstrate his frustration and impatience. Tragically, misguided protection may result in social andfor psychological path- ologies. How much more natural it would be to view life as a continuim, rather than separ- ating epople into cloistered, segregated catagories. The failure to view life holistic- ally is perhaps the saddest aspect of the middle class ethos. By declaring youth as the most desirable of ages, people exper- ience a hollowness decades before their biological death. How incredibly wasteful. Youth is only a segment of the eighty year span expected, of which each year brings the promise and opportunites for new growth, new choices, increased happiness. Throughout the course of the year, a myriad of new models have been presented and discussed with regard to viability and functionality. I am not fully convinced as to the worth of delineating an alternative model until further research, and perhaps practical experience is incorporated. The fault of traditional middle class marital model lies not so much in its structure, but in its sanctimonious claim as the one right way. What is ow necessary is not just an alternative model, but an increasing libera- tion of options. The blueprints for alternative. forms must come from the participants desiring those forms. They must dictate the struc- ture, constantly modifying and experiment- ing. The middle class marriage is dictated to, resulting in traditional reactions to 42 authoritarianism - resentment, feelings of entrapment, hostility - not exactly the basis for joyful interaction. Major issues in erecting new forms include the recognizance of sexuality, both pre- and postpubescent, and incorporation of expanded sensitivity and sexual educa- tion programs. Coupled with this could be expanded definitions of parenthood iincluding adoptive, biological and social parentagel, or forms denying the essen- tiality of parenthood. Types of family interation and sexual regulations iextended, tribal, homosexual, radically egalitarianl are only as limited as the number of structures considered. Provi- sions for establishment and dissolution of marriage could become as individualistic as the couple or family deems viable. Only when marriage iin its various formsl is viewed as an element of individual choice, rather than societal coercion, will it truly provide maximum satisfaction and happiness for the families concerned. The faminine mystique is quite an effective persuader. The un-married fem-ale seems as enigma, viewed as a pitiable, barren spinster or a male-devouring, hard- assed competitor. Mothers, anxious to secure a satisfying future for their daughters fand perhaps to vicariously fulfill their own livesl prepare them early for wife- and motherhood. Seven-year-old chil- dren are taught to murture plastic surrogate babies. Pink ruffles are the order of the day. Achievement and independence are deemphasized, passivity and domesticity are praised. Women come to believe in their inferiority and allow parental, societal, and media manipulation of their minds, their bodies and their lives. The masculine mystique is equally insidious. en are denied their emotion- alism, their gentleness, their humanism, through a widespread promotion of aggres- siveness, raw courage, self-assertion and strength. Due to an arbitrary economic structure, the joys and wonder of child- rearing are chiefly entrusted to the female.

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