Carthage College - Driftwood / Crimson Rambler Yearbook (Kenosha, WI)

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THE COLLEGIAN ?inesse . . . In College Romance ERE we have Finesse in College Romance as told to us by two J r: i who have seemingly learned eone a sophomoreethe other. a senior. Let 5 see what these two interesting personalities have to say on the subjectefirst the sophomore. Mary Louise Dunn: Gather 'round, sister workers of the weaker sex. and see how your 'lineups' compare in this ancient game of snaring the stalwart man. There's no spot in this wide world-revealing romance more than said Carthage College. This locality grows more influential every day in realizing its matrimonail purposes. so if there is a field for such sentimentalism. surely we ought to be eager for self improvement. especially since the competi- tion is certainly keeni Primarily. my modem Minervas, Dorothy Dix and I both agree that a valuable asset to any 'canned' personality is a courageous sense of humor. Even though your worn ears have listened to the same siderspiit' ting ditty for several weeks, don't grit your teeth, avoid undue moaning -laugh uproariously and throw excess pride to the winds. It seems that we women need idiotic tendencies to gain a strong foothold in our rela- tionships with men. i'Then too, it becomes apparent that these objects of our affections require an attentive audience upon many occasions. Even though you may be betraying your pet ideas regarding technological unemployment, the atomic theory or possibly this new fad for shorter skirts. regard the matter from an objective point of view and be mildly acquiescent. Such an attitude will undoubtedly help the poor man in question to retain his self relianCE. Oh yes-a third vastly important step to follow-flatter the man? Strangely enough. I disagree with the trite expression which maintains BETA KAPPA Page 17

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THE COLLEGIAN petsonalittl . . . Can We acquire It? By Doms OTI'ERBEIN .- ITTLE self denials. little honesties. little passing words of sympathy, 1 little nameless acts of kindness, little silent victories over favorite temptations-these are the silent sylph-like threads of gold which weave themselves together into just the pattern that would mark us with distinction as individuals, Personality-what more is it than distinction? A distinction great enough, appealing enough. lasting enough to cause people to realize its presence. If more of humanity would take time out from its hilarious- worldly living to realize how much of the makings of a personality each of them has in his makeup. what a changed world we'd begin living in. Trials, temptations, disappointments-all would be helps. not hindrances. for they'd be used rightly. They'd not only test the fibers of our char- acters but they would strengthen them as well. Every conquered tempv tation and every trial endured would represent a new find in ourselveSe would make our souls noble: and stronger than ever before. The trouble with most of us today is that we whimper at the slightest sign of dis, content or displeasure-we make ourselves miserable just by thinking about ourselves. about what we want. about what we like, abOut what respect we think others owe us. and about how really good we think we are. Nothing is so miserable as a self-satisfied exceptionalist. Because we do have our times now and then when we honestly feel down-in-the- dumos. as it were we shouldn't just give way to the idea that everything is all over for us. lust remember that even though the sun sets every evening. it does get up again in the morning, as bright and shining as ever. The happiness of our lives depends on the quality of our own thoughts awelll have to guard accordingly To be happy ourselves is a most ef- fectual contribution to the happiness of others. Certainly we can acquire a personalitye'lonly to trust and do our best, and wear as smiling a face as may be for others and ourselves W that was Robert Louis Stevensonls remedy. We'd merit a great deal in remembeiing his words as well as those once uttered by Louisa May Al- cott. Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations I can- not reach them but I can look up to themr see their beauty, and try to follow where they lead. Personalityecertainly you can acquire it.

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THE COLLEGIAN that the surest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. If you ask me. they relish subtle marks of praise far more than supposedly tempting Edibles prepared by 'our own dear hands'. You SEE, when they gain the impression that we are admiring their accomplishments. their importance increases tremendously. One more bit of adviceedonlt ever be foolish enough to follow the previous line of talk. If you can't get your man by being natural and sin- cere. you shouldn't realize any success. If you have an Irish temper. don't hide it by coy agreement; similarly. when you have your Own opin- ions. air them frankly and you'll hnd much more to discusg with him. AE- ter all. if we girls disguise ourselves behind a glittering line of artificiality, the men will never get a chance to know us as we really areeuntil it's too late. And now we hear from our senior. 'lpeople's choice Krenz! tThis is really good, consideringel Of course. opinions may differ. but that is a woman's prerogative. What is of highest interest about the whole affair is the 'method'. Strange that this should be paramount? Not at allt Ah. if only Mark Anthony. Plato. or Edward of Windsor had exercised it. wouldn't things have been different? All because they failed or perhaps didn't fully realize or comprehend the worth of that certain something called 'Hnesse'. How we men have progressed-with so little encouragement in this present day, and all by cultivating a certain stratagem known as economy. Inst think-a short walk of nine or ten blocks and she thinks he's an outu door man; a dime dance and. well, her ears start buzzing; some place to sit while the moon is shining through evergreens and other ears start buzzing: a bottle of Coco Cola and the evening has been a sumess. Re- serve material plays its part. for exampleea double feature picture and a bag of popcorn-this makes him practically 'tops'. Finally the acme of all out artihces. and this we fellows consider as the ace, is the possibility of throwing a lake into the bag of Stratagem. By this time she's ready to meet the folks back home There you are, girls! Not a bad finesse. eh what? No words spoken. no promises exacted lnot even a frat pinl and graduation comes along to shatter your Eondest illusion. LAMBDA SIGMA KAPPA Page 18